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HOW TO BUILD A CULTURE OF RESPECT
”Respect is a gift”
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Take what the other person says and look at what they really want. They may ask for a lift, but they may really ask for more personal freedom. If you can communicate with their deepest needs and desires, not just what they say frankly, you will have the opportunity to communicate more deeply to the basic needs. These are less obvious and more powerful. If you can communicate with feelings, and really see where the other person comes from, you will feel heard, and be more open to listening to you, connecting, and ultimately to respecting you.
Discuss what is important
Well – so you’ve heard and continue there is still a disagreement? this is good! You do not always have agreement or harmony for respect. If you are fair, open, clear and you really listen and communicate – the possibilities are that respect will flourish. You do not need to be friends with others in order to respect them. Go to friends and lovers. Respect is to promote effective teams that are in line with achieving huge goals. At work, it’s perfect if we’re all like each other, but, it’s not always possible.
Respect can only be given. You can not take. You can not force it. You can not extract it. If it respects, others give it freely. Can not be forged or forged. If respect for others, because it really happened.
Give first, then get it!
In order to “get” this gift, you have to give it first! A person is rarely respected, if he does not give it to others for the first time. It’s transparent and can not be forged. If you really “give” respect to others, you’ll be on your way to getting some in return.
Listen with all your senses,
One sure way to respect others is to really listen. Keep your mind completely empty and simply “be there”, for now, open to what they really say. Pay attention to their words. To their eyes. To their body language. Do not respond immediately. just listen. pause. And consider what this other person is truly communicating. A great book about art and nostalgia listening is just listening.
Clarification to be clear,
Rewrite the words spoken by the other person. There is a lot of misunderstanding in the world today because communication happens quickly. We try to take a lesson of slow tea and find that being slower with communication, the less permeable “transmission button”, the more obvious we are and the more efficient the long term. Rephrase what the other person said, in your own words, so they are sure that you really listened and heard them.
